Monday, July 26, 2010

Trying to Keep My Cool

I've been yelling a lot lately. At this guy, in particular.  

I know, how can you yell at that face, right? I feel awful about it afterwards, of course, but I can't undo it. The horrible relentless heat is somewhat to blame, because we've been marooned inside our air conditioned living room for the last 2 weeks. Luke makes huge messes, seemingly instantly, and spreads them around everywhere - he IS a 3 year old boy, after all. I try to go with it, but sometimes I lose it and lose it hard. We kiss and make up afterwards but I fear the damage my "Mediterranean temper", a term my first boss coined to refer to my hotheadedness, may be doing to our relationship. But Luke innocently finds ways to let me know we're still cool, at least for the time being. Tonight, he was hanging around my neck, literally, and I asked him what was up. He said "I love your neck because it's warm and I love you". He can't be too emotionally scarred if he says things that cute, right? Or when I carry him up to bed after a busy day of running around when he's fallen asleep on the way home. He puts his soft little arms around that neck he claims to love due to its warmness, even in his sleep. Little moves like that let me know that I'm still in good standing with him. But I DO want to stop yelling, or at least yell less (I am a realist). How do you keep your cool when your temper is ready to blow?   


Bridget said...

I totally take Mommy Time Out's. Usually in the bathroom...because that's the only place I can get some alone time.

You're not the only one!

Momma Lioness Michele said...

Thank you, B. That's a good idea, if only Luke would leave me alone in the bathroom... :) But I will try the Mommy Time Out instead of yelling next time I'm about to lose it.

Anonymous said...

Aw, shoot, I know how ya feel. Sometimes I completely lose it: scream at the top of my lungs. It only makes Violet scared and makes her cry even LOUDER. Hey, we're human but, a deep breath goes a long way. The baothroom? Hmm, I know that I can never get a minute... even if I'm hiding in the bathroom. I dunno, sometimes I walk away for a minute and return with a calm voice and a hug.
Raising a kid is NO JOKE.
It's the bakery (running a business) times 10.
Soon I'll be there for some sharing of the kids. lol

Momma Lioness Michele said...

Thanks Stef. Yelling sometimes shocks Luke into doing what I'm yelling about but I don't like how quiet he gets afterwards. Walking away for a moment does help, and I sometimes just ask him, hey, are you hungry? And that'll be why he's acting up. I just have to chill more. It's good to know I'm not alone!

Uncle Joey said...

Deep Breaths!! I know it must be hard to be a Mommy...try to laugh more at it all and enjoy this time (even when he's making you crazy) because pretty soon he'll be a teenager and want to be out every night!
You're doing a great job! xoxo

Uncle Joey said...

Oh and that picture of lukie is BEYOND ADORABLE. I LOVE THAT KID!!!

Old School/New School Mom said...

Aw! That neck comment is too cute! Your son is just adorable. I totally get it though. I have a 2 1/2 year old boy and I just lose it sometimes. You can only take so many temper tantrums etc.